Valentine’s Day has come and gone, and frankly, I’m glad. I’m in the camp that thinks Valentine’s Day is largely an opportunity for expectations to get heightened and disappointment to ensue. Watching all those jewelry commercials leading up to the 14th sure can get a girl’s hopes up!
Instead of focusing on an extravagant Valentine’s Day, I prefer to use that holiday as a reminder to do other (more practical) things to show my partner some love. I found this to be an especially important practice while wedding planning – it’s so easy to get caught up in the details of marrying someone, you can often overlook your beloved in the process.
5 of my favorite ways to show my partner some love:
- Go for a walk together. Taking time away from the tv, dirty dishes, cell phones and other distractions can really help you connect with you fiancé. Even just ten minutes is enough for a nice recharge.
- Sneak a sweet surprise. When I travel for business, I often find my husband has hid a note somewhere inside my suitcase. I occasionally set a piece of his favorite candy next to his lunch in the fridge. Neither of those gestures take much time or money, but they’re always appreciated.
- Take care of their to-do list. Sure, my husband was supposed to make the vet appointment, but instead of nagging, I did it when I had a spare moment. Now it’s done!
- Embrace their interests. I might not care one bit about college football, but I’ll sit next to him and watch at least one game a season because we’re spending time together. It’s three hours doing something that isn’t my favorite, but it shows him I care.
- A joyful greeting. It’s amazing to me how often we come together at the end of the day and one of us is too busy to do more than holler “Hi!” from the other room. When my husband comes home, I try to stop what I’m doing and give him a hug and ask how his day was. This might be a simple suggestion, but it’s something that requires effort.
Think about how thrilled you’d be if your betrothed was doing any of these things for you. If you start these little gestures, they’re likely to be repaid. Here’s a tip: set a reminder on your phone for any of the above to help get you in the habit!
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Christina Broat is equally addicted to a good workout and ice cream – it’s all about balance! She lives in Seattle and spends her time traveling the country and talking to people as a market research consultant. When she’s not on the road, she spends her time exploring the city with her husband, knitting, playing with her new puppy, or doing a little freelance writing.